March 12, 2014 in Quotes
Being a parent is one of the most rewarding, yet most challenging tasks we could be given. As a responsible parent, we naturally want to make our children’s childhoods smooth-sail experiences, however, as human beings, we are bound to make mistakes. Even as a father or a mother, we need to learn to gracefully rise up from our previous errors and deal with them properly.
We have compiled a few major points to help you remain an accountable parent and yet free you from being overly worried:
Your children know when you are feeling guilty
Children know more than you think. Even though we tend to see them as worry-free and innocent, when we think back to when we were children, we were actually extremely perceptive and would feel sad if our parents were having a fight or were feeling depressed. If you could not stop feeling bad about a previous accident that occurred, your child would sense your feelings and might internalize it as the accident worsening the relationship between you and him/her. They might even think it is their fault that you are feeling unhappy. To prevent this, simply apologize, forgive yourself and move on.
We are not liable for everything our children do
Oftentimes as parents, we make ourselves the culprits of however our children turn out. However, as our children are growing up, they are developing a mind, personality and interests of their own. A lot of their individuality is not in our control. We can try to be the best parents, however, there are still possibilities of incidents that could happen and take us by surprise. Sometimes, how our children act would shock us and make us wonder what caused their outbursts.
If you are still caring for your child, you are not a neglecting bad parent. Stop feeling guilty for no reason. You are a blessing for your child, just relax, learn from your experience and do not become overly anxious over your child’s every act.
Stay emotionally healthy
Maintaining our emotional health well helps us build a better parent-child relationship. When you need to take a break, give yourself one even if it is a quick walk, taking a shower or a short nap. Let the breaks be guilt-free because you need to recharge to deal with some overwhelming situations that might present itself while taking care of your child.
If you find that you cannot shake away your feelings of worry for weeks or even months, you should be concerned with your own psychological health. When you are experiencing sadness, worthlessness or excessive guilt throughout the day, nearly every day and have trouble concentrating on taking care of your child, it is recommended that you reach out to a family doctor or counselor, who could refer you to a therapist who can assess and treat mood disorders. Take this precautionary measure for the wellbeing of yourself and your family.
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Making Family Time a Priority
Although it may have been easy to spend time with the family over the summer, the fall and winter months bring a whole new set of challenges to families. With children returning to school, and all the stress that accompanied the holiday season, in hand with the pressures of the New Year, you may find it increasingly difficult to make family time a priority as your schedule becomes more hectic. Despite the difficulty, it is not impossible to prioritize family time – continue reading for some helpful tips to make the New Year more meaningful than ever.
Quantity and Quality
One of the most important things to remember about family time is to define this time by quality instead of quantity. Trying to spend every second of your free time together is unrealistic. Instead, aim to prioritize your time together by engaging, interacting and communicating with each other. One hour of talking to your child is certainly better than five hours of watching television in silence with them. By emphasizing the importance of quality over quantity in your everyday life, you will be able to make the time that you do spend together more meaningful and beneficial.
Most of us are overscheduled. From school, to working full-time, to extracurricular activities, it is far too easy to become overwhelmed with all your responsibilities. Aim to create at least one day in the week where you and your family have some free time to relax with one another. Although it is important to leady an active and healthy lifestyle, we all need some down time to unwind and manage the stresses of everyday life. This means saying ‘no’ to certain things in order to avoid that stressful feeling of being overwhelmed.
Family dinners are a great way to structure your family time and introduce some regularity into everyone’s schedules. While it may not be realistic to eat dinner together every single night, make sure to establish certain days that your family always has a meal together. Don’t forget to maximize the quality of this time by switching off televisions, computers and cell phones. Catch up with one another about the day’s events by having meaningful conversations that will bring your family closer together.
Do you have any good tips for prioritizing family time? Leave them in the comments section below!
WHY YOU ARE REALLY YOUR CHILD’S SECRET ROLE MODEL
Our friend, Abby Nelson from www.Nannyclassifieds.com, wrote a great article on about how you influence, motivate and inspire your children everyday through everything you do. Your children are always watching, observing and learning, so being cautious about the choice you make, the feelings you project, your responses and actions are extremely important. Read more from the article and get great tips on ways to learn to be more cautious to serve as a better and more positive role model for your child by clicking the link below. After all, you are their greatest hero.