You’ve had enough.
As parents of children with special needs, you are often looked upon as having the worst of the bunch. Teachers complain about attention deficit in your child during classes, passers-by on the street gaze at you with a mixture of sympathy and fear of a diagnosis they know little of, family members giving cordial greetings when you attend gatherings and yet still do not quite know how to interact with your child.
But you’re sick of all that.
What most people don’t realize, is that all you want to do is to scream to the world, “I love my child and I am proud of him, I do not care if he has special needs or not!”
We know you are sick and tired of the harshness of this world, so here we are to agree with you and let everyone know what the top five best things about parenting a special needs child is:
There is so much more joy in parenting a special needs child than other children because the happiness that a special needs child exudes is infectious.
Amanda Belcher, mother of Maggie who was diagnosed with Cerebral Palsy when she was 17 months old, praises Maggie because she can “smile and laugh, she has a sense of humor and she loves to laugh at things.”
When your child smiles even though you know that he/she tries harder than others to achieve certain functions in life, it’s the most heartwarming thing in the world.
Amanda Belcher (right) sees her daughter Maggie (diagnosed with Cerebral Palsy when she was 17 months old) as gifted and loveable as her other children without Cerebral Palsy.
Each child is born differently, and as most parents would agree, special needs childrens’ diagnoses give them a unique character that no other child could match.
Belcher says, “When I see Maggie I do not see her diagnosis, I see her as herself and the diagnosis is only a part of who she is, but I recognize that she is still more than just that.”
Realizing each child’s gifts and talents is the most rewarding feeling because you begin to understand how each person can contribute to the world in his/her own unique way.
You begin to realize how much you can love a person.
Your children with special needs are not burdens. In fact, they are far from being difficult. They are your most precious jewels.
The process might be stretching but through it you realize your capacity to truly embrace and appreciate someone for who they really are.
Belcher states that, “My husband and I believe in molding our children to become valuable members of society. Our goal is to guide them towards a loving path, to teach them to love other people and to love God.”
Through taking care of a special needs child, you begin to appreciate all the support you receive from all directions. Family, friends and even social workers all chime in and provide encouragement or care in some way. This support becomes so valuable that you start to recognize what ‘no man is an island’ means.
You begin to let go of pride, ego and self-sufficiency, and start to open up for the people around you to show you love and be your source of strength.
5. The Miracle of Life
As clichéd as this might sound, many parents would agree that it is through caring for a child with special needs that they begin to get a glimpse of what a miracle it is to be given the gift of life.
Seeing their child achieve one after another milestone is extremely encouraging. To learn to not hold back their child from certain circumstances because they want their child to become more enabled is a hugely enriching process.
Belcher admits, “I only want Maggie to be held back by her own choice, not by circumstances. She is such a blessing to me and I am just amazed at how she just loves people and is so welcoming. I want to guide her to achieve the best of her abilities. God gives you strength.”
Maggie Belcher has been “accomplishing amazing things”, according to her mother Amanda Belcher, she can roll, sit and crawl properly after enrolling into a functional education program.
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